I CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY,..
in just Three Days
A Handbook of
HOME- and SELF-HYPNOSIS
A detailed Manual of Hypnosis which tells the truth
about how it can be easily learned and used
on oneself or on others.
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BabyShoe Publications Library of Congress Registered
No.1, CT13 9DL ISB Number: 1 874069 10 7
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Introduction : A PROMISE AND A WARNING
Chapter One : WHY HYPNOSIS?
Chapter Two : ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT HYPNOSIS
Chapter Three : WHAT HYPNOSIS CAN DO
Chapter Four : HOW YOU CAN,..
Chapter Five : HYPNOTISING OTHERS
Chapter Six : FURTHER TECHNIQUES AND ROUTINES
Chapter Seven : THE MAGICAL EXTRAS
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This book has been banned in several countries!
Only as the result of a long legal battle
has it become possible for you to
read it now.
Readers should remember that parts of this book
deal in frank detail with sexual material.
If you prefer to avoid this, stop now!
DO NOT BE OFFENDED!!
In writing this book I, as author, made and still make a remarkable claim. You know it already. I say that "I can make you happy,.. or happier, in just three days."
I am cheating,.. slightly.
What I should say if I were absolutely precise, is that I can show you how to be happy in just three days. And I can. Only if you were an individual client of mine, could I personally make you happy in that short time.
But, since you are far away, I can't actually do it for you myself. Instead, as I said, I'll show you how. Then,.. and this is perhaps the most remarkable aspect of the whole thing,.. then, using my techniques you, Yes, YOU yourself, do the job for me. You will make yourself happy in those three same days!
Thousands have done that already. Thousands more will. Every post brings letters from people who have learned new things, developed themselves and their personalities, their ego, their determination, their confidence. We hear constantly from people whose marriages have been saved, whose sex lives have been wonderfully restored, whose job and earning capacity has been increased,.. and from those whose troubles, worries, anxieties, destructive habits and phobias have all been treated and helped by the process.
We hear from people whose very lives have been altered,.. often vastly,.. and always for the better.
I do not claim any of these benefits for you, though they and many other good things are practically certain to happen. If and when any of these things affect you,.. and they will,.. then that will be an extra bonus. And I do not claim any of the credit for myself. When these good things happen to you it will be because of you and your efforts. I show you the way,.. but the achievement and success is your own.
My only claim is that you are going to be happy. And so sure am I that your happiness quotient will be raised that I make this no-argument promise. When you have had this book for a full thirty days and providing you give your word that within those thirty days you have honestly and thoroughly tried the full programme on three different, consecutive days, then , if you truly believe you have not been made a happier, better, improved person, without argument, I the author, will personally refund the cost of this book. You won't have to go through the shop, the library or the mail order company from which you bought it. Just mail it to me at the address below, and tell me why you think it failed and the purchase cost will be on its way to you the very next day.
That's how sure I am. That's how positive I am that it will work for virtually everyone including you. Although we have never met,..
I know that you can do it.
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And now we come to a Very Serious Warning,..
Elsewhere in this book you will find serious cautions about making sure that in addition to learning and using hypnotherapy, you also have authentic medical advice. Nothing in this book should be regarded as superseding or replacing proper, informed medical opinion and guidance. This is for your good. If you have not taken the sensible precautions we recommend, we cannot accept the blame for failure or for unwanted consequences.
Additionally there are just a few emotional/mental conditions in which hypnosis should not be used as there is an element of risk that they could be worsened. They are mentioned in Chapter Three. They are not the kind of things you would often be likely to encounter; but they do exist and there are people who are suffering from them. If you have any of these DO NOT use the methods in this book. If in doubt, take our advice and first
ASK YOUR OWN DOCTOR.
Hypnosis is not a gimmick or a toy. These are powerful techniques. Make sure they work for you as they most certainly can, and not against you.
You have been warned!
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Of all the countless methods of medical treatment available today, there is one that stands head and shoulders above all others. It is the safest, the easiest, the gentlest. It is non-invasive. It is inexpensive. It can be used to treat more cases than open heart surgery, kidney dialysis or organ transplants. It needs no toxic chemicals to be swallowed in the form of drugs. It requires no hospitalisation. It relieves pain, problems, phobias and numerous other conditions. If ever the the over-used words 'miracle treatment' could be applied to a therapy it could be to this one,.. hypnotherapy.
If that sounds like an over-statement, it isn't. Later there will be a list of the conditions hypnosis can help and very often cure. It will be an impressive list but it won't be a complete list. That would need a book to itself. For there is practically no medical diagnosis which cannot benefit from the addition of a course of hypnotherapy to the treatment programme. That is a formidable statement. But its is made without the least fear of contradiction.
Hypnosis is about the most powerful, effective yet safe weapon in the entire medical armamentarium. And here in these pages you will read what it is, how it works and what it does. You will learn how to use hypnosis on others. You will learn how to use it, secretly if you choose, to enormous effect on yourself. You will learn its techniques of induction and maintenance. You will learn what it can do for you,.. and you will be very surprised.
But first a very serious word of caution:-
THIS IS A FURTHER WARNING.
No hypnosis or self-hypnosis course, book, instruction or lay practitioner should be regarded as in any way a substitute for supervised, professional, medical advice. It is not. And when we come to discuss the Hypnotone Methods, they and the equipment involved are absolutely and specifically included in this warning.
Every person who intends to use hypnosis on him- or her-self, and every person intending to undergo hypnosis should check with his personal physician and obtain his advice and consent.
Nothing substitutes for appropriate professional guidance.
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Despite the sound commonsense of all such warnings, it is recognised that many people do use many varieties of self-treatment with or without supervision. People have that freedom of right and of choice. In either case, in using hypnosis in any individual instance, the person in question could do little better than follow the techniques explained in this book.
There is no doubt at all that, properly used, hypnosis is a magnificent facility. It is a vast, untapped source of power. Power to gain strength, power to be better at sex, power to accrue wealth, and power,.. enormous power, over your own weaknesses and problems,.. and power over other people. It really can be used to build your own mental stature, confidence, concentration, memory and so on. It can expand your mind and give you control over many aspects of life you never thought possible. It can be used to help other people too. Indeed, it is true to say that it can also be used to influence the actions of others. There is nothing wrong with that as long as the influences are to that person's good and take place with consent. If hypnosis is used to hurt others or for your selfish advantage rather than theirs, as it unquestionably can be used, then that is a despicable act deserving only the strongest deprecation.
This available and largely unused source of mind-power and success is present in everyone,.. the simplest, the least educated, or the most brilliant, in varying degrees. The hypnotic technique that will release its enormous powers can be practised on oneself in total privacy. It can be used on friends. Hypnotic tricks can be worked up into a magnificent and impressive party piece or even a theatrical performance. They can even be developed into a new, full- or part-time business with considerable money-earning capacity.
Thousands of people have succeeded with hypnosis before you. There are professors and doctors using the techniques in the research units of universities and in country practitioners' offices. There are senior service officers using hypnosis to train personnel. Companies use it to assess, categorise and motivate staff. Ministers of religion use it from their pulpits and on individuals to overcome resistance and secure converts. Quacks using hypnosis can be located in the small ads columns of any local newspaper.
And everywhere, throughout every walk of life, not only trained hypnotherapists but ordinary individuals learn the simple processes of hypnosis in order to better themselves, to develop their personalities, to combat their problems, to overcome phobias and anxieties, to enhance will power,.. and to become, overall, better, stronger, happier and more fulfilled people.
Why so many? Because the methods are easy and virtually free of cost; because there are no dangerous side effects; because any one can learn them, they are so effortlessly simple. And first and foremost,.. because they work. Almost no-one fails to benefit.
The main purpose of this book, in addition to explaining what hypnosis can do and how to do it, is to teach the actual Do-It-Yourself methods involved in its use. With these you do not depend on anyone else. You yourself will become able to use self-hypnosis or, to give it its correct title, hypno-autohypnosis (H-AH),.. the hypnosis of oneself using a hypnotic induction method. (This distinguishes it from self-hypnosis induced by other techniques such as certain drugs, the use of mantra or other trance-inducing mental exercises, or the use of physical induction methods).
When it comes actually to using the methods of creating a state of hypnosis, what is called induction, you will find the instructions are the easiest things to follow. Then the book will explain the various directions in which H-AH and the hypnosis of others can be utilised. In doing so it will provide the precise words you can use,.. until you become experienced enough to substitute your own. Next you will discover how to make hypnosis tapes similar to the Hypnotone recordings you will also learn about. Finally you will read of the conclusional or 'wake-up' methods that return the hypnotic subject to the ordinary, everyday state of alert and wakeful consciousness.
And if there is one thing more than any other that will impress you, it will be how easy,.. how very, very easy, it all is. For it is easier than you think,.. a lot easier. What is more, you are a lot more capable than you think. Just you wait and see.
Now, first of all, some general background.
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ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT HYPNOSIS.
This chapter does set out to tell you all you need to know about hypnosis. What it does not do is promise to tell you all about hypnosis. That would be impossible for as yet, there is an awful lot we don't know about hypnosis. We don't even really know what it is!
The best way we can describe hypnosis is by comparing it to well-known and recognised states of mind. For example, although we can't actually define it we all know the signs of consciousness,.. the ordinary condition in which the waking mind operates. And we all know how to recognise that other common condition, sleep and how it is different from consciousness.
Being in a state of hypnosis is different too. The best we can say is what it is not. It is not consciousness. It is certainly not sleep. It is an 'altered state,' neither proper sleep nor yet proper consciousness. As in sleep, some bodily functions are relaxed or deliberately suppressed. Yet the hypnotic subject retains other functions in normal, or even at more sharply active and focused levels. The body is calm and almost without sensation of touch or temperature. Outside sounds are deflected or ignored. Yet the words or thoughts of the hypnotherapist are clearly heard and acted upon.
When monitored there may be changes in the blood pressure, in skin humidity and electrical resistance, in the brain wave patterns and in the electrocardiogram. Breathing usually becomes shallow, slower and calm. Desires to cough or to feel and scratch an itch are reduced. There is a sense of safety and security, a pleasantly enjoyable and happy feeling. The body, limp and heavy, seems unimportant. The mind is everything, able to expand, travel, elevate,.. and develop.
How then can we describe hypnosis? It is admittedly difficult. Indeed, one of the major reasons that hypnosis has had such a rough ride in its acceptance as the genuine, useful therapy it is into the practice of medicine has been the absence of proper scientific words suitable for its description. Talking about hypnosis sounds a bit like a poet, a philosopher or a religious quack. Words like 'trance' and 'altered states' and 'mind-power' have about them the ring of the charlatan and con-man,.. and hypnosis has produced any number of those, all the further to muddy the waters.
The experienced operator or controller, can note the difference between the several different degrees of 'hypnotisability' and the 'levels' reached by a patient in any given circumstance. But no-one can accurately quantify those degrees. One can write down the blood alcohol, the white cell count and the haemodynamic pressure in precise figures. One cannot do that with hypnosis. It is uncertain, vague and imprecise,.. and scientists hate that; some of them to the point of denying that hypnosis even exists at all.
But exist it does as we shall see,.. and as any readers can experience for themselves.
Probably the best, although still inadequate definition of hypnosis is that it is a state of consciousness different from any other and in which there is increased relaxation and increased suggestibility. Let us consider those three points separately. First, as we have seen, the hypnotised subject is quite definitely conscious. Yet he (or she) is not fully awake in the usual sense. Nonetheless he is certainly not asleep. So the claim that it is a different form of consciousness from those with which we are familiar, holds good.
After hypnosis a subject will often say something like, "I wasn't asleep, you know." The answer is "I hope not, otherwise I'd have been wasting my time while I've been talking to you." A little surprised by that riposte they will then say "Well, I mean I wasn't under." The answer to that is "Under what? What did you think was going to happen?" People have got very much the wrong idea about hypnosis as we shall also see.
The second point claims increased relaxation. One of the most thorough ways of approaching a hypnotic state is via an episode of increasing relaxation. Bit by bit the body relaxes. Bit by bit the emotions calm. Bit by bit the mind becomes more tranquil. Even before actual hypnosis starts a state of deliberate increased relaxation,.. called concentrated relaxation, has been achieved. This is further extended during the imposing of the full hypnotic state. So, point two holds.
Finally is claimed increased suggestibility. Sometimes hearing a song evokes a memory or suggests a certain response,.. it may be romantic or emotionally rousing or even irritating to the point of infuriation. A TV advertisement may be for car tyres but by showing a pretty girl and a handsome man happily together in a sports car with such tyres, the idea comes across that fast cars, pretty girls and happy times are associated with those particular tyres. It is nonsense, of course. But it is a deliberate attempt at suggestion. Someone may make a suggestion to you,.. a vague hint perhaps, but something that you will spot and respond to as you choose. All these things and many more in everyday life depend on this hard-to-define quality called suggestibility. It is the quality of being receptive to the suggestion of others. It varies immensely from person to person and in the same person, at different times.
Many people are open to suggestion of a certain nature more than others. If a man is sensitive about having a big nose, the slightest mention of noses suggests to him a coming hurt or insult,.. similarly with a lady uncertain about a new dress or hair style. After she has gained confidence by wearing it for a while she is less sensitive, less vulnerable, less susceptible,.. her suggestibility has been diminished, at least concerning that subject.
In hypnosis the suggestibility levels increase in that people listen to and accept the suggestions, the ideas, plans, remarks, and explanations of the operator more easily. They are more trusting and less critical. They consider and analyse the suggestions less. In other words they impose less censorship on their critical faculties when absorbing or denying the suggestions. So, the third point of definition also holds.
It does something more. It shows very clearly that if one is going to be of increased suggestibility, if at the end of a hypnosis session one is going to have allowed into the mind an incompletely checked new idea, then it is vital that that suggestion not only comes from someone who knows what they are doing, but that that someone can also be utterly trusted to have the subject's interest at heart. A bad or incompetent hypnotist or a selfish one can do a great deal of harm. This is a major reason why auto-hypnosis is so successful,.. you can be absolutely positive that you, above all other people on earth really do have your best interests at heart!
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The two most important factors, when considering the successful outcome of a course of hypnotherapy are motivation and rapport.
Experienced controllers will spend time getting to know the subject. They will talk about the condition for which help is being sought, of course. Then they will range the conversation through several aspects of the subject's life. They will talk of home, childhood, upbringing, religion, schooling, work and leisure. They will talk of likes and dislikes, of wives and children, of the responses to love, sex, politics and everyday stresses and strains.
The controller is seeking to know his patient the better and to detect aspects of him and his emotional make-up that underlie, cause or result from his problem. He is also showing that he is interested, that he cares, that he is involved with the subject and that he aims to understand him, care for him perhaps and help him for certain. The patient in turn becomes more open and free. He talks more easily as to a friend and confidante rather than to an impersonal expert. He gets to appreciate, perhaps even like or admire his helper. Above all, he develops confidence. This interchange of knowledge, this relationship that develops is what we speak of a rapport. When a good state of rapport exists between the hypnotised and the hypnotist, the best results can be expected.
It follows once more that autohypnosis gains from this. There is no-one who knows you better or cares for you more than yourself,.. as long as you are being absolutely straight and honest with yourself, that is.
Motivation, the other factor, is if anything, even more important. It is possible to see a hypnotherapist just once, to know nothing about him and have no particular relationship with him, yet still to derive benefit or be cured of some small problem. Though rapport vastly improves results, it can be cut to a minimum without causing failure. Not so with motivation. In the absence of motivation substantial success and its prolongation without relapsing is far harder to achieve.
It is very important that the subject,.. yourself perhaps, is fully motivated. You must want to get better. You must have considered it and must positively desire it. You must feel you need to. You must have decided to give it a real, thorough go. You must be committed to the idea.
Hypnosis takes time. It probably means travelling some distance. This and any fees involved have to be covered financially. It also involves effort. It isn't a question of someone else, the hypnotist, doing all the work. You have to use your abilities too. You have to listen, concentrate and think. And to get the best out of it you will have to practice. Not for long perhaps,.. maybe just a few minutes day, but practise nevertheless.
It is not customary for people to enjoy practising,.. though hypnosis is often so pleasurable that it becomes an exception. It is not customary for people to appreciate effort, expense and the use of their time. As all these are likely to be needed for successful hypnotherapy a high degree of determination and application will be needed. And that is what motivation adds up to. Part of it too is faith and conviction. The genuine belief that it does work, that it will work for you and that it will help you,.. as it undoubtedly will,.. if you'll only let it.
I often put it to patients this way. I can teach you the notes of Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata because I know them. After I have taught them to you you will know them too. But, if you want to get to the Albert Hall you have to practise. You,.. I can't do that for you. It is the same with hypnosis. I can teach you the techniques either in this book or in person. But to make it work for you at its very best, you must do the practising. That part is all down to you. Furthermore, when it has all worked, when you are better, cured, improved,.. and happier, then you will be able to claim a lot of the credit for, although I showed you how, it was actually you that did it.
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We mentioned earlier that many people have mistaken ideas about hypnosis. They've seen the TV shows. They've seen the Hollywood movies. They've seen the darkened room, the glinting diamond ring, the gold pocket watch swinging on its chain before some victim's face. They've all seen the dark-eyed, bearded Svengali type leering at the helpless, bound maiden and making weird passes before her face, with his hooked and evil fingers as he tells her,.. "look into my eyes." No wonder hypnosis gets a bad name from this kind of high-gothic theatrical drivel.
It is quite true that these potty gimmicks will work. On the right person, a child or a highly suggestible, rather dramatic subject all kinds of silly tricks will work. But hypnosis gains nothing from them. They are not at all necessary and are best left to the public stage hypnotists who are there as mere entertainers.
Another common mistake is that the subject is, in some way, placing him or herself at the mercy of the hypnotist. There is a sense of vulnerability. This is very commonly felt by a lady patient lying on the couch while a man of strong personality hypnotises her. "What if?..." she thinks. And men too have the idea that they will be deprived of their will power, that they will be somehow in the power of the therapist. They all wonder how they will respond, how will the therapist behave,.. what might he do to them,.. or make them do.
Well, let's put that little fear to rest. Of course hypnosis is used in such vile procedures as so-called 'brain-washing.' It is a powerful tool for deeply probing the psyche, for uncovering hidden secrets, for bending the will to breaking point, and for re-constructing a new, false personality. These things are all possible. But they require many other facilities too. They need to be associated with disruptive routines, physical torment, perhaps hunger and disturbed day and night body rhythms and so on. The subject will usually need to be either a devoted, political volunteer or a prisoner. Even then it will take many weeks or months of intensive effort by an entire team.
These things are simply not possible under the circumstances we are considering,.. the home or the consulting room. In our situation,.. and this is most important,.. in our situation it is not possible for the controller to induce the subject to do or believe things that are foreign to their nature. So be re-assured.
If the controller says to a lady "Pick up that vase of flowers and empty the whole lot all over the carpet" she is virtually certain to refuse. A man cannot be made to change his political affiliations. He cannot he made violent so that he goes home and cuts his mother-in-law's throat,.. even if he does, daily, think she deserves it. A lady cannot be made to undress in front of her unchaperoned therapist,.. unless, of course, she wants to do that anyway.
This latter is a very common fear,.. or alleged fear in ladies. Concern about sexual assault does exist and such fears need to be allayed. No male therapist should treat a female in private. There must always be another lady close by either just outside the door or at least within earshot. Also, it is better if the session is conducted with the subject sitting in a chair rather than lying on the couch. She should also be told that the therapist will, throughout, be sitting at his desk or at least on the far side of the room from her. All these guarantees re-assure. The patient is therefore better able to feel calm, to relax and to let the hypnosis work at its best.
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Caution: Unscrupulous controllers do exist. Be careful to choose one with a good reputation. If you are not going to do-it-yourself, then ideally choose a therapist with a good name and who is, preferably, also medically qualified.
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It is true that, for example, a respectable lady would not obey an order to strip off her clothes in the presence of a man for whom she had come for a hypnosis session which does not require being undressed. This would be an affront to her moral standards or personal preferences. However, there is a dirty trick that is used by some. When she is at her most trusting, perhaps after several sessions, and when she has been hypnotically induced and brought to a high level of suggestibility, her critical faculties are deliberately suspended. It is as if she trusts the words of the therapist and is no longer thinking about them and their truthfulness.
At this point he can ask her to imagine that she is at home, alone, absolutely in private, perhaps in her bathroom or bedroom. He carefully creates the imaginary surroundings in her mind. She can be convinced that she is unobserved, the door is locked, no-one is near. Next she is instructed to imagine a couple of ants have crawled into her clothing. She can feel them tickling her. She feels she must strip off her clothes and get rid of them. To her in that state of suggestibility this scenario seems quite rational. It is logical and does not affront her natural sense of propriety. She will often disrobe quite willingly. There was an example fairly recently where pictures of a pornographic nature were marketed. The therapist had misled women into believing they were receiving treatment in the course of which they performed the most obscene acts, in front of cameras that 'were only present for research purposes.' The therapist was imprisoned.
The warning is yet again loud and clear. Check with your doctor first. If you are going to use a therapist let him refer you to one of his choice. Or at any rate find someone of impeccable professional standards.
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Hypnotisability is the degree to which one is susceptible to hypnosis. It varies widely from person to person. Some can be hypnotised with extreme ease by the right person. Some can be hypnotised by almost anyone. Some will respond only to a very special kind of therapist. Some are so difficult that they need one session after another before they get the hang of it at all. Some, of course, deliberately resist.
It is probably true to say that given the right circumstances almost everyone can be hypnotised, and everyone can hypnotise. But not everyone can be hypnotised by everyone. Some people are more susceptible to the hypnotic state; some people are better at hypnotising either naturally, or as a result of much practice and experience, or both.
For all these generalisations it is better to be as specific as possible. Though, as stated, almost all people can be hypnotised under some conditions or other, when using ordinary 'domestic' facilities and methods, an average of about eight to nine out of ten is the usual proportion. The others, the 'hard' cases, those who resist deliberately or can't seem to help it comprise the remaining ten per cent or so. Using self-hypnosis this figure drops as virtually no-one fails on self.
Amongst the hypnotisable ninety per cent exists another very special group. These are known by a rather antiquated and unsuitable name of somnambules, another way of saying somnambulists or sleep walkers. They are people of very high susceptibility rates indeed. They can be hypnotised by practically anyone in the easiest of circumstances. There are about four per cent of them in the general population. These are the people chosen by stage hypnotists and brought on stage for special demonstrations. We shall see how to detect them later. With one person in twenty five being a somnambule, hypnotists seldom have difficulty finding enough for their entertaining performances.
It is undoubtedly true that people of certain mental make-up tend to gravitate to certain jobs and hobbies. As susceptibility is part of this make-up it is possible to make certain generalisations. For example, people used to taking orders, like soldiers and policemen, tend to be good hypnotic subjects. So do those of imagination and flare, those with more open minds,.. the poets, dreamers, writers and artists,.. people who love adventure, thrills, ghost stories and mysteries.
The more difficult people are those drawn from the more precise or logical occupations,.. the accountants, the bank managers, the mathematicians. People of feeble mind, the simpletons, the manual workers, the slow-witted are notoriously difficult cases. On the other hand children are notoriously easy as are those of hysterical disposition. A brief discussion will soon help sort out the different categories and such assessments are generally reliable though remarkable shocks do occur. (I recall, at a private but large group demonstration of some two hundred people and organised by an extremely well-known British composer and impresario, accidentally finding a very susceptible somnambule who was previously unknown to me. It turned out later that he was a CIA official attached to NASA security! He had somehow slipped through the meticulous screening processes for over fifteen years. Regrettably for him, his chief was also in the audience and instantly recognised the threat this posed. The man was immediately transferred. I was subjected to intense interrogation and was left wondering whether what had happened was for the better or for the worse).
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People react differently to their first experience of hypnosis. Some are frankly resentful. This was more so in earlier years when hypnosis was regarded with a greater measure of suspicion than today. Men in particular felt they had been in some respect humiliated and shown to be inferior by being out of control and subjected to the will of another man. This latter is not a correct assessment as we have seen. But to them it felt that way and they didn't like it.
This reaction was very noticeable amongst physicians. Though some were starting, fifteen or twenty years ago, to recognise the potential of hypnosis and to want to learn more about it, when they got to a demonstration and were voluntarily hypnotised they felt ridiculed and belittled. It is most interesting, and gratifying too, to comment that that situation has radically altered in the last few years. More doctors are learning and using hypnosis. There is far more about it in the medical journals. The older group of doctors do still tend to display doubts and dislikes when they are hypnotised. Younger doctors, on the other hand, and medical students in particular, now react the opposite way. They are pleased when they achieve hypnosis and regard it as a compliment. In fact they are actually disappointed if for one reason or another they don't manage it first time.
There is commonly an element of disappointment after early hypnosis experiences. The subject has a wrong idea gleaned from the media and consequently expects something pretty dramatic and impressive to have happened to him at once. When it turns out not to be so he feels rather let down. Having anticipated some sort of metamorphosis or transportation to an imaginary 'cloud seven,' when that doesn't happen the subject 'comes round' and thinks nothing has happened at all. He is quite, quite wrong.
When questioned he will usually agree that what happened was not what he expected. It is as well to tell prospective subjects in advance that this is usually the way things start. That way they are less disappointed and they don't think the therapist is just making that up to explain away a failure.
In actual fact most people undergo a profound sense of calm and relaxation. There may be gaps in their memory of exactly what has been said to them. They will have been less aware (or not aware at all) of outside factors like traffic passing in the street or people talking elsewhere. They often undergo time distortion frequently declaring they felt a session had lasted only a couple of minutes when it had really lasted for fifteen or twenty minutes. When back to the usual waking state subjects tend to feel rewardingly calm, clear headed, less troubled. Most will report a sensation of relaxed pleasure and even happiness,.. and they have the wish to repeat the procedure.
You are probably now starting to see that the claim that hypnosis will make you happy is a real one. You can already see it as being more than merely possible but actually very likely. People enjoy hypnosis. It feels good. They like it. It makes them feel happy,.. and it will make you feel happy too.
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Apart from arranging a suitable atmosphere in which to induce hypnosis there are two other very important factors that help. Some would say they are essential. The first is motivation, followed closely by preparation and anticipation. Ideally the subject will have opted to undergo hypnosis. He will be convinced or will at least be open minded that hypnosis offers help. He needs that help therefore he is motivated to try the experience. He or she will have approached a therapist or will have started on a D-I-Y book like this one. There is therefore already a sense of preparation.
At the selected time either alone or with the therapist the surroundings are arranged. The subject knows that in a short while the actual session will commence. He also has learned something of hypnosis. Doubts and anxieties will have been calmed, myths demolished and information acquired. He will know what to expect. He knows that hypnosis exists, that it is easy and safe, and that it works for almost everyone. He not only wants it to work, he believes it will work,.. and for him. This is a perfectly reasonable opinion as success to at least some degree is a near certainty. The subject is therefore motivated and is prepared. This, added to the experience he is about to undergo, creates a state of readiness. He may feel a little apprehensive, though there is no real reason for this as he will soon discover. He is aware that he is about to be hypnotised,.. to enter a new and different state of mind. He is ready for the experience. This all adds up to anticipation,.. the expectation that after motivation and preparation the skill of the therapist will soon render him hypnotised. The three prior requirements are thus satisfied and the scene is set.
One thing only remains. This is sometimes spoken of as 'misdirected attention' though that is not really precisely correct. What it in fact means is having his attention focused on something else, something other than the hypnosis and other than the therapist. The aim is to absorb his attention by concentration on some trivial and otherwise unimportant object. For this reason the phrase 'concentrated diversion' is a better description. The subject's attention is directed to something and then drawn to it and steadily more and more and focused on it. Some operators use the sense of smell, filling the room with actual aromas; some even use imaginary aromas though this involves considerable skill and experience.
Often a background sound is chosen, something unobtrusive, like soft music or a gently ticking clock or metronome. Indeed, whatever main method is used an audible sound is invariably a useful component. Occasionally the attention is focused via the sense of touch, as with the coin-dropping technique described later.
Easiest and best method of all, especially for the beginner, is to focus the eyes on something,.. a door handle, a spot of light or a mark on the ceiling. By concentrating hard on the object attention is diverted from other things and permits a relaxation of general awareness and the ordinary protective thought processes. During this state of suspended resistance the induction technique and words used by the therapist enter the already prepared mind easily and without opposition. The result is hypnosis. We shall give the precise words and some easy techniques later.
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Now as we re-ask the original question, we must briefly speak in that philosophical jargon I criticised before, simply because there is no other way.
What is hypnosis? It is an altered state in which mind-power is amplified. This mind-power, this relaxed but strong, this continuous but pervasive ability of the mind is little different from what we call will-power. But it is will-power put to use. It is will power focused by oneself or by another. It is will-power in action.
Not everyone has much will-power. But everyone has potential mind-power. Watch an eight months old baby puzzling a new problem, probing, experimenting, trying until it eventually succeeds.
Watch one person influence another not with wealth, authority or logic, but by sheer personality,.. by mind-power. That is a kind of hypnosis.
I recall seeing it put to unscrupulous use by an evangelist. He was a tall, powerful man in a long, black coat. His eyes sparkled. His voice boomed. His words were powerful. His mane of white hair and his well-kept beard made him prophet-like. A small, timid girl who had heard him preach found herself motivated to undergo 'conversion' and to be 'born again.' She was prepared by his sermon. She anticipated the arrival of some great power and some change in herself. The three prior requirements we listed above for hypnosis were all well satisfied.
The evangelist beckoned her and she stood before him, her eyes downcast. He placed his huge hands on her shoulders. "You believe in the Holy Power of God,.. don't you?" he boomed. She nodded, meekly. "Raise your face and look at me, child." She looked. "You believe I am the servant of your God,.. don't you?" She nodded. "Look deep into my eyes and seek the hope of salvation." She looked. Her attention was thoroughly misdirected. "You are a follower of the Lord Jesus,.. aren't you?" She nodded again, wide eyed and enraptured. He pressed down on her shoulders thereby distracting her attention further. "Then down, down onto your knees woman,.. and receive the spirit of your Lord forever into your heart." Amid gasps from the congregation, she sank into a position of prayer and supplication,.. 'converted' perhaps forever. Some would justify that use of hypnosis, perhaps claiming it as true conversion. Others might well think differently.
Either way mind-power exists. You have it. You can use it. It will improve you in many ways, and, via the simple route of hypnosis it will do you a lot of good. It will unlock your thoughts, free your mind, expand your control, fulfil you abilities, enhance your plans. And it will help you to be happier than ever before.
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